You know, Valentine’s Day is really a non-holiday for me. I seriously don’t care about it or understand why there has to be a mad exchange of flowers/chocolate/cards/jewelry and sexual favors going on, specifically on February 14th.
And yet every year, Husbandrinka gets me a lovely box of Belgian chocolates. It’s a lovely gesture, of course, and I appreciate it, except this morning I realized that since I never asked for anything for Valentine’s Day, nor made a big deal about it, he’s obviously doing it because some ex-love seared it into his brain that he has to.
And that years and decades later, he’s still thinking of this woman. On our special day.
I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to forgive him for this. How that man could ruin the most special day of the year for me like this is just beyond me.
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Our Orthodox brothers put it very simple:
It is very simple to know what we want today, almost as simple to know what we will want tomorrow and it is impossible to know what we will want or fill in 1-10 years.
So, this is a holiday of today.
Twitter: Vtfarmgirl
February 14, 2011 at 9:34 am
HOLY SHIT! This possibility never even occurred to me.
I love your unique and quite cynical way of looking at things. I can’t remember the last time my husband got me something for Valentines Day. I just assume he’s getting laid elsewhere!
Twitter: homschlr4ever
February 14, 2011 at 1:11 pm
Oh Lynn, that’s pretty funny. We don’t do valentines either, well, when the kids were little, we did it for them but now, it’s just a big ole pain in the behind. I’ll have to ask D if he’s getting his valentine’s day present somewhere else. He’ll probably just snort.
Twitter: rimarama
February 14, 2011 at 10:12 am
I love that the ad at the bottom of your feed for this post is for heart shaped pizza.
P.S. I think Husbandrinka loves you.
You’re so funny. I love receiving flowers, I have nothing against V-Day, but really, I care about it as much as I care about St. Patrick’s Day and I don’t really drink beer.
I did bake cupcakes at midnight for my son’s class for today, though, and we did make lovely treat bags for all his classmates at school. 🙂
Are you sure it’s a woman?
Twitter: Mamabirddiaries
February 14, 2011 at 10:43 am
She’s probably opening her Belgian chocolates at this very moment. #CheckCreditCardReceipts.
This was really funny. The alternative is that my husband does nothing because he didn’t have some woman sear it into his brain. I wouldn’t mind some Belgian chocolates though.
Twitter: gdrpempress
February 14, 2011 at 11:38 am
Oh, my guy came in a box stamped “damaged goods.”
I swear he keeps a reminder post-it in his wallet that says, “why try.”
That’s OK. I just came back home with my box of chocolate petit fours and 4 dollar mug o’coffee and I’m sitting here reading Marinka.
What’s not Happy Valentine’s Day about that?
excuse the chocolate smears on this comment…numnumnum
Twitter: noshoppingliz
February 14, 2011 at 11:51 am
i’m about to run out and get Harv a Valentine’s Day card…or something…I don’t really know, since I’m never sure what to do with this “holiday” and he always tops me. Not that it’s a competition, but this day always leaves me feeling a little lacking in the wife department.
Twitter: SheSuggests
February 14, 2011 at 4:38 pm
Excuse me but wouldn’t that constitute as shopping? Who do I call about this? the Minimalist police force is down to just the one officer….
Twitter: aroadwithaview
February 14, 2011 at 12:13 pm
I dislike Valentine’s Day even more than Halloween, probably because it’s way scarier.
At least we have The Bachelor to salve the wound.
Well fuck! You mean I only got earrings and dark chocolate because some other hussy liked them? Now I’m just mad. Sexual favors be damned!
That bitch.
Twitter: mybusychildren
February 14, 2011 at 1:09 pm
oh surely, it is not because some ex-love. Just the social pressure and the traditional mindset. I told my husband I did not want anything for Valentine’s day. And if he does not agree, then every day should be Valentine’s day.
In any case, he (my husband) was asked many many times already by his friends and coworkers what he is getting me. He cant just say “nothing”, right? So, I think, I am getting a box of chocolates tonight
Interesting idea. Except when your kids start calling “social pressure” mommy.
Twitter: missbritt
February 14, 2011 at 1:09 pm
Let’s get her!
Twitter: homschlr4ever
February 14, 2011 at 1:14 pm
I’m going for the old girlfriend. That’s pretty good. Valentines Day, just another day to try and be the perfect wife, mother and daughter. I say, chuck it. I’ve got too much to do like cleaning bathrooms, working, and cleaning the mess my 19 year old made in my kitchen making valentine cookies for her “love”. Yea right. He’s a musician, he’s never going to make any money. Have I taught her nothing?
Susan http://www.swimbeauswim.blogspot.com
Twitter: ssmirnov
February 14, 2011 at 1:33 pm
Wait, what? Sexual favors are part of Valentine’s Day? I think I missed that memo.
The nerve of that guy!
The rat!
Twitter: SheSuggests
February 14, 2011 at 4:38 pm
As long as he doesn’t start doing something new in bed I think you’re safe…
Mmmmm, Belgian chocolates…..all words after that are a blur. :))
Twitter: _SHOWandTELL_
February 14, 2011 at 6:39 pm
Damn shame the other woman didn’t seer into his brain to buy a new car or a world trip each Valentine’s Day. Talk about a lost opportunity.
Trish
xx
Twitter: grandemocha
February 14, 2011 at 7:46 pm
Exactly!!! Diamonds, Carribean vacation, I can think of lots of things she could have told him to buy.
that rotten bastard.
Twitter: kobiANDlaelsmom
February 14, 2011 at 10:53 pm
So it’s a good thing that my husband gets me nothing? I’m confused.
How dare he bring her memory into your chocolatey enjoyment? I have lost all respect for Husbandrinka.
Twitter: theflyingchlupa
February 14, 2011 at 11:49 pm
I bet it was a post-collegiate affair where she demanded to go to Bruge and all he could get her was Belgian chocolate. It’s time for you to establish the upper hand and demand Swiss: reliable, honorable, timely. Be the Marina Hingis to her Kim Clijsters.
Twitter: gonnakillhim
February 17, 2011 at 11:09 pm
At least she liked chocolate and not dehydrated meats or exotic fish.
My Dad kept a lock of hair taken from a redhead he dated for years into his marriage to my mother. She hated it.
(I portrayed my father like a serial killer).